Nicole C. Mullen – Unity & Forgiveness, The Lessons Of Love

CCM: Yes, it has to do something with un-forgiveness. How did forgiveness really come to play in your life?
NCM: Wow. Forgiveness always costs the one who forgives something. Forgiveness doesn’t say that there was no ill done. It doesn’t say that you didn’t transgress anyone. But it says—and this is what I learned and am continually learning—I will take this case and I will give it to the High Judge and allow Him to decide whether to get or acquit. In the meantime, I will love you. I won’t seek revenge for the ill that you may have done toward me, which releases me to live, to love, to laugh again, and to really move ahead like never before.

There’s always a cost. But the cost yields such great rewards.

CCM: To forgive someone, what might that cost me?
NCM: Well, people have read about it, and some have heard about it, and I’ve spoken about it on stages, but for biblical reasons, I had a marriage that came to an end several years ago. I have to continually walk in forgiveness. I’ve learned it’s not a one-time thing. When you see someone, whether it’s at church or your kids’ school or at the grocery store, because you’re human, the emotions rise again. I remind myself, I choose to walk in forgiveness. So it costs the flesh what would seem to be the pleasure of revenge or putting [them in their] place. [But] when I choose to walk in forgiveness there is such peace and freedom that allows me to move on, and to say, “I don’t hate you. I wish the best for you. I pray for you because I’m sure this cost you. It has inflicted a wound upon your spirit. And so I pray that the Lord would heal you as well.”

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